Yes, indeed. I do have something in common with the King of Action, the infamous James Bond 007. I’m the first to say we have a few differences. I am an easy going person who enjoys writing, reading, cooking, and mild gardening (when the weather is perfect). James Bond…well, he’s 007.
For those of you who may have seen the latest James Bond movie, Quantum of Solace, you’ll know that the James Bond star, Daniel Craig, can be seen jumping buildings, averting bullets, and crashing through whatever gets in his way. All in a day’s work while holding back murderers and terrorists single handedly.
Will the Real James Bond Stand Up?
I saw him recently on Jimmy Kimmel Live and almost felt a sense of relief when he walked out with his arm in a sling. That momentary reaction of seeing him as a vulnerable person instead of his invincible character on the screen brought me back to reality that there isn’t a real Santa, I mean James Bond. His arm in a sling was from a shoulder injury. Then he told a story about how he cut off the tip of his finger while filming, but quickly showed the camera that it had healed up and grown back.
See, James Bond and I have something in common. I snipped off the tip of my finger while I was slicing and dicing in my preparation of a Thanksgiving meal. My buddy, James, had his accident while fending off terrorists. Mine was because I turned my wrist slightly wrong while slicing a cucumber. Even at that, I bonded with the “Bond”. My finger, too, has healed, except for the very short nail and awkwardness from a tender finger.
I’m sure your Thanksgiving was memorable, too. You may want to read about my last year’s Thanksgiving, When All the Turkeys Have Gone Home. In case you are still dealing with left-over food or relatives, you need a break to meet some new friends on MyNBCF. Please don’t tell me you have nothing in common with anyone there. Friends are waiting to meet you.
Making Yourself Vulnerable
At a vulnerable time of your life when you find out you have breast cancer, you may also find you want to keep your feelings to yourself. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend are authors of Boundaries, an enlightening book on how to set physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual boundaries in your life. They say, “Emotional distance is a temporary boundary to give your heart the space it needs to be safe; it is never a permanent way of living.” Keep in mind that there may be a short period of time that you temporarily “catch our breath,” but there is a world of wonderful people who are offering you friendship.
While there is a common experience of having breast cancer, take a look beyond what has happened to you and talk about the things in your life that are important to you. Friendships can develop in the beginning by sharing your breast cancer experience, but take your experience to a higher level of interest in other areas of your life.
Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend further explain that boundaries are not walls by saying, “Boundaries are supposed to be able to ‘breathe,’ to be like fences with a gate that can let the good in and the bad out. Individuals with walls for boundaries can let in neither bad nor good. No one touches them.”
As a breast cancer survivor of several years, I clearly remember telling myself that I must let go of bad thoughts and perhaps move toxic people out of my life to make room for the good. It is a life-long quest for me to continue to open my mind and heart to the good in people and to let the best parts of my life emerge from the experience of breast cancer. Friends and loved ones have helped me along the way. Open up to new friendships at MyNBCF.
Thought for Today:
“Friendship doubles our joy and divides our grief.”—Swedish Proverb quote